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Using Your Gift

I’m moving higher
I’m going higher and higher
Closer to my dreams
Higher and higher

Everybody has a gift on Earth that has been giving to us. Getting there can sometimes take a lot of ups and down. But never give up on what you aspire to be. Keep pushing, think positive about it, and never give up.

As a Black Woman in a male dominated field it is easy to lose your focus. There have been times that I had to cry about my job or felt like quitting. My drive has kept me going because I love what I do. If I would have giving up, I would have never been able to pave a way for another woman to be able to set foot in the same role. Yes, I have paved a way at one of the companies that I have worked for. I was first woman to ever work in my area. I feel proud to represent other women no matter what your color is. We all are going to win in IT.

I remember wanting to quit pursuing me dreams in my field when I had to deal with the misogyny of what I love to do. It’s okay for the men to do what they want and still get paid even if it was nothing all day. I have had to work harder to prove that women belong in this area. I have fought the good fight. I remember being asked by one of the directors the following question: “Why do not women want to apply for roles in Information Technology?”. I responded because with the following with tears running down my eyes: “Women are not treated the same as men are and even if we work hard it still comes with misogyny because we can over perform in this field but not be promoted like the men.” I am not married and watched with my own eyes how they gave all the newly married men on my team promotions and raises. I took all that hate that had built up and created a wall at my house to remind myself that “I can do anything”.

God has giving me this gift and I want to continue to use my gift to do his will. Woman we are winning over hearts everyday and letting the workforce know daily how valuable we are. Life is never easy but you’re a winner in the end.

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Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. I hope you are able to spend time with your family and be blessed.

I know this is off the topic but I wanted to let everybody know that I am grateful. There are so many things to be grateful for in life.

Here a list of things that I am grateful for:

  • I am grateful for my job.
  • For being able to bless other’s.
  • God financially blessing me and taking care of me.
  • For having good health.

What are you grateful for this holiday? I have so much to be grateful for and thankful for.

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Celebrating Women’s Rights

Often times guys forget that you are in the room or that you have an opinion. We do not live in the stone-age anymore. Women are being more independent in the workplace. Woman can do anything that they want to and determined to do. Women have fought for this moment for us to be able to have a voice.

Women in other countries who do not have a voice are starting to take that stand. We deserve to be respected on this earth. Women of Color and the Fight for Women’s Suffrage

All of us are beautiful and unique and all our own ways. We are thriving to better our lives and pushing to the top of the career ladder. We are wives, mothers, sisters, friends, and leaders. If you are a women making things happen you are a boss. Uplift your women friends and do not discourage them from reaching their goals and dreams. We all have many ups and down, twist and turns but have to remind ourselves and be positive about it.

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Celebrating 1 Year

I want to thank everybody who is subscribed to this blog or have been reading this blog. I am celebrating 1 year of it being a success story. I am happy to have reached so many people. and looking forward to seeing where it’s going to go.

Thank you all for you support,

Cam

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Unstoppable

This song by Sia – “Unstoppable” plays ever time I get my car. Yes it reminds me everyday that I am Unstoppable and can do anything that I put my mind to. As the the lyrics play while I am in the car.

“I put my armor on, show you how strong how I am
I put my armor on, I’ll show you that I am

I’m unstoppable
I’m a Porsche with no brakes
I’m invincible
Yeah, I win every single game
I’m so powerful
I don’t need batteries to play
I’m so confident
Yeah, I’m unstoppable today
Unstoppable today
Unstoppable today
Unstoppable today
I’m unstoppable today”.

I was talking to a friend a few days and telling her how much I have been through in my career. My car reminds me everyday that I am unstoppable and that I am fighter. Yes I could have giving up my dreams a long time ago but I did not. I am here to show an all male dominant field that women have arrive and yes we are unstoppable. I think about a few areas in my life where I have paved the way for women to work a company.

I got this and will not give up on my career. I am going to reach the top and keep pushing to let women know we got this.

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Brand New Me

Letting go of the past is necessary in order to move forward in life. I am not perfect and yes I have made choices that I should have put more thoughts into it. Yes, God gives the freedom to make the choices we want freely. If it is not the right choice trust me God will let you know until you learn that lesson. Reflecting on my past and the lessons that I have learned.

Starting my career was not easy and I was not making enough in my field when I first started out. I would go to the career fairs at campus to look for an internship and felt that they had set the requirements so high for students at an HBCU and not the same requirements for a non HBCU student. I graduated with not much experience under my belt and felt the heat when it came looking for a job.

I would cry about not getting any offers after graduation and applying. I think God wanted to teach me lesson about it. I was in a stressful married at the time and trying to graduate. Yes, my married had failed because it was choice that I wanted and it was not the choice that God had for me. I can not change the past but I had learned from this situation that God had my back. I was going through a divorce and did not have anything to my name but God made a way for me to have a job. It was not the idea job but it paid the bills. I was so heartbroken by how I was done by this person who said that they loved me and made vows to me. All of it was a mirage and all I had left in the end was my pride. I had to start over my whole life. God took me out of a situation, tore me down, and rebuilt me as a new person. Thank you God for giving me a second chance to start over new and just focus on getting to where I wanted to be in my career.

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And Her Name is Me

Mental Health is very important to me as a person because I am warrior who has overcame Depression. Depression is not often talked about where I grew up at. As I get older you still have things that can trigger your emotions. “Are you prepared to overcome these emotions of what you are feeling?”

I remember buying this album when I was in college studying. I did not love myself as a person. I was looking love in all of the wrong places because I have never experience that feeling in my life and I often saw it in movies. I was never told I was pretty or received complements or had great encouragement in my younger life.

My first official time in experiencing that feeling was by my college friends who I had that real connection with like a family. These people taught me how to “Love Myself” and letting me know that my situation was not ideal at all. I had learned in my younger years how to have confidence in myself and know I had friends who cared for my well being.

One of the biggest regrets I wish I would have should have chosen myself more when I trying to be in relationships with the opposite sex. I easily learned that it was not to be in the situation that I was in. I had met this guy my freshman year and we had a lot in common. He was an upperclassman at the time. Things changed my sophomore year in our relationship and yes he started to show who he really was, “Player”. I really did not know what to do because I was inexperience with being in a relationship and very naive with myself. I wanted the attention when I should have chosen myself. This person made me hate myself even more and change me into someone I knew I never was. Instead of seeking the wrong attention I should have chose “Myself”.

Now that I am older I have learned to wait for the right person and wait on God’s timing and not my timing. I did things that I wanted to do and not by God’s timing. I have learned to be a stronger person and learn from my mistakes. Yes we are humans and do make mistakes. I have learned to forgive myself and chose “Me”.

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It’s Okay to Cry

This blog post is about Mental Health and how important it is to take care of yourself.

As a career woman I have been through stressing situations at my work place where I did not have a work life balance to rest and reflect. It’s easy to get burned out at a job when you are good at what you do and no one wants to help these users.

I may look strong on the outside but I am emotional on the inside. Deal with work stress has caused me to cry, become an alcoholic, and feel unworthy of being a human.

I remember when I started a new job in a new city and how hard it was to transition to what I was used to working for and with it. I was introduced to the Good Ole Boys club. Women were not respected in this area or promoted. During this time of life I was stressed out with this new place and knowing that it was not fair at all. I was doing all of this work and not being paid my worth at all. There would be times I would go to the bathroom to go cry to relive my stress. Sometimes it would turn into going into a conference room or the car to do so.

I have experienced stress in a workspace but not like this. I was holding down a whole company that’s around the world by myself. The worst feeling I ever felt was working during Covid and being the only one on my team going in. During that time I was not recognized for doing that or even promoted. I was told I did not deserve a promotion or raise by a manager who barely knew me and he gave someone a raise who was barely working for 6 months. It was not fair to me and yes I was heartbroken inside. I was upset and I started to cry and ball my eyes out. Stress, unfairness, and loss of insight of where I was going in my career was on my mind. The thoughts I had in my mind is “Working in Information Technology as Woman worth it” and “Do I give the fight to for future woman in my career”.

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Meeting Baby Dee

I was working at the Trap House when I met Baby Dee. I remember she was over 6 feet tall and a big girl. She loved to eat good. She had braces at the time and everything under the sun you can imagine was in the mouth. When you have braces you are supposed to not eat certain foods.

I remember one day I was working and she came up to me to ask about he computer. It was not working. I went over to her desk and talk about all sorts of food at that desk. She had a very funny personality. The first few things she wanted to know was: “What I was eating for lunch”? She started asking me why I was working at this place. I remember she wanted me to buy her lunch that day and had the nerves to threaten me if I did not buy her something she was going to break her computer so I could come back out and look for me.

This is the only the beginning and I have plenty of stories about this person and how hilarious she was.

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Welcome to the Trap House

I remember being on my last dime and getting a call to start a new job somewhere on a part of time where I have never been on before. I remember getting excited about starting the position and I pull up to the new place to work. It was in the hood, “yes I am from the hood myself”.

My first day I remember pulling up in the parking lot trying to find somewhere to park and the parking lot was full. It smelled like weed, sex, and stanky thrash. I pull up to the first spot I see and I see people in their car smoking weed. I got high by just smelling it in my car so I decided to find another spot where I felt comfortable. I get out of the car and walk in the front door. I see that they are interviewing on the spot and hiring on the spot so I realized that it was call center. I have never worked at one before, this one was such a rememberable place to work at.

As I went inside of the building, this place had such a bad odor and it was very dirt. People had all sort of stuff sitting at their desk. I remember walking in the bathroom and it smelted awful.

I meet my manager that day and the people on my team. The two guys that were on the team loved to argue about unnecessary stuff that would get them in a heated argument. That’s another story you will hear at another time. I sat at a nasty desk where men needed to clean up after themselves. I could not complain about the work conditions because I needed the money that I did not have in my account.

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