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And Her Name is Me

Mental Health is very important to me as a person because I am warrior who has overcame Depression. Depression is not often talked about where I grew up at. As I get older you still have things that can trigger your emotions. “Are you prepared to overcome these emotions of what you are feeling?”

I remember buying this album when I was in college studying. I did not love myself as a person. I was looking love in all of the wrong places because I have never experience that feeling in my life and I often saw it in movies. I was never told I was pretty or received complements or had great encouragement in my younger life.

My first official time in experiencing that feeling was by my college friends who I had that real connection with like a family. These people taught me how to “Love Myself” and letting me know that my situation was not ideal at all. I had learned in my younger years how to have confidence in myself and know I had friends who cared for my well being.

One of the biggest regrets I wish I would have should have chosen myself more when I trying to be in relationships with the opposite sex. I easily learned that it was not to be in the situation that I was in. I had met this guy my freshman year and we had a lot in common. He was an upperclassman at the time. Things changed my sophomore year in our relationship and yes he started to show who he really was, “Player”. I really did not know what to do because I was inexperience with being in a relationship and very naive with myself. I wanted the attention when I should have chosen myself. This person made me hate myself even more and change me into someone I knew I never was. Instead of seeking the wrong attention I should have chose “Myself”.

Now that I am older I have learned to wait for the right person and wait on God’s timing and not my timing. I did things that I wanted to do and not by God’s timing. I have learned to be a stronger person and learn from my mistakes. Yes we are humans and do make mistakes. I have learned to forgive myself and chose “Me”.

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My Thoughts Are Not In A Good Place

One thing a lot of people do not talk about is depression. Depression does exist and it is real. People deal with this everyday and do not have much support to lean on if others do not understand what you are going through and can not relate with your feelings or thought.

Yes, I have been through depression and it has been an easy road to deal with because I did not grow up in an easy home. I remember when I was in High School, I got made fun of because I had Eczema at that moment and not much was known about this growing up. I also dealt with the not being the prettiest girl in the whole. I got tired of dealing with the pressure of what I was dealing with and wanted to end my life because I never thought I was worthy of living.

As I got older I started to begin to drink very heavily when I was in college to get rid of all the pain that I was going through as a person. I was going through family issues, stress of school, toxic relationships, and trying to fit in. I was so gone in my mind that I was hoping to one day not to wake up.

One day I was talking to mutual friend that cared about me and suggested I go talk to a counselor. I decided to go talk to a counselor and started to heal. Never be afraid to go to counseling. Just know each one of us has purpose in life. If you ever have those types of feeling never be scared to tell someone who cares. If you do not feel that person exist be sure to contact a counselor or a program that can help you.

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Is Society Uncomfortable with Confident Women?

I recently saw this last week and was glad that these women were willing to talk about this topic.

It’s okay to be confident in the office place and speak your mind about things you are not comfortable about. We live in a world where men in the office just want us to be seen and heard. Times have changed and Women have a voice to say what they want to now.

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Stealing My Peace of Mind

Sexually harassment is never a topic people want to talk about in the workplace. Yes it happens! Sexual harassment can leave to working in an hostile environment. A lot of companies tend to over look the situation because people are used to getting sexual favors in the office from someone who is not their spouse.

I was working my first internship at a company that I was excited about working for. I was the only woman on my team as usual. Yes, I was approached by older men on a regular basis trying to shoot their shots at me. I would would get invites to go to happy hours, lunch, to go look at something, etc. Not knowing at the time that this was a form of sexually harassment. The main thing they would come over was to look at my boobs at my desk. Of course sexual harassment is not being taught about in college and of course I was young and naive.

One day I was approached by a lady who worked at the site. She wanted to talk to me woman to woman. I was like what did I do. So I went to go to her office to meetup with me. She starts to talk about my suit and how revealing some of my clothes were and the rumors she has been hearing about the intern being fine. She asked me was all of this going on in the workplace and I told her yes. One thing that she had offered to do was go take me shopping to go buy some better clothes to cover up my boobs more and she paid for the clothes. Also my desk space was removed from the directory to stop the old dirt men who used to come by and bother me.

More real life harassment stories will be coming soon… stay tuned.

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Yes We Can

Shout out to all the women out there in this world who have chosen a life to work in Information Technology. This post is for you and to keep you encouraged in this journey. It is a man’s world in this field and we often get discourage because it’s not many of us around due to the fact that you have to deal with following: sexual harassment, discrimination, male egos, mental aggression, mental abuse etc. Yes, I have been through it all just like you.

Times have changed and it’s time to accept our female counterparts in these roles. Women are still fighting now for the same rights. You can have all the knowledge, skills, and sassiness to do this role but yet feel alone when it comes to encouragement. I have been the only black woman in my department doing the same role the men are doing. Yes, I have opened up a door at one of the companies I have worked for to another women who wants to pursue this field.

Here is a playlist that I have created that celebrates women. Trust me, I do listen to this playlist when I am in need of encouragement.

  • “I’m Every Woman” by Chaka Khan
  • “Q.U.E.E.N.” by Jonelle Monae and Erykah Badu
  • “Independent Women” by Destiny’s Child
  • “Respect” by Aretha Franklin
  • “Girl on Fire” by Alicia Keys
  • “Just a Girl” by No Doubt
  • “Man! I Feel Like A Woman” by Shania Twain
  • “Fighter” by Christina Aguilera
  • “Run the World (Girls)” by Beyonce
  • “Rise Up” by Andra Day