As a young girl in my teens I always knew what I wanted to do and found my passion. As a grown woman I have never stopped dreaming of reaching my career potential. It has not been an easy role but it was sure worth it.
I remember my mentor in college telling me nothing is easy and it comes with challenges especially if God is trying to elevate yourself. Yes is right about that for sure because I have come across challenges, obstacles in the road, and standstills to get here.
I am always talking to my sister about continuing to pursue her dreams and goals. I am still pursuing my dreams and goals and not going to give up no matter how hard things get. My time is coming and I am going to reach the top. I have been up and down in life. One thing I can do is come back stronger.
One of my favorite songs I added to this blog because it talks about “Never Giving Up”.
I have been trying to figure this out all month but I never will be able to figure this out because this still has my mind in a mystery.
Learning from this situation that happened this month I must say it is okay to take care of yourself. If you do not know what to do about what you are going through you can always write it in a diary or go talk to a counselor.
We are all human and can easily overwhelm ourselves with distractions, family issues, depression, work, and other problems.
There is nothing wrong with focusing on your mental health or self worth. Take time out for yourself to know that you are valued. Say words of affirmations over your life that are positive. We only have one life to live. How we deal with everything can stress you out to the point where it affects your health mentally and spiritually. Never let life get you to that point where you can not find peace with yourself.
I was listening to my playlist on Spotify and this song came on. Yes, I sure did listen to it. I brought up so many memories of when I wanted to give up on life and what I was going through. I had to take some time to feel grateful of everything that I have overcame.
Pursuing my dreams has always been a difficult challenge with all the obstacles that have been in the way. I am grateful to keep moving up in my career by not giving up.
Here a few examples of obstacles that were in my way and God made a way.
The fears of being able to go into a male dominated field.
Gaining new experience and staying valuable.
Learning to love myself when the job was tough.
Rejection is a part of life and it’s how you deal with it.
Helping other women in my field know that we all winning in this together.
It’s okay not agree what is going on, you have a voice and it needs to be heard.
It’s okay to cry when things get tough and get back on track to the right goal.
Growing can be hard at times in your career and it is hard when you are not treated fairly in your work environment.
I’m moving higher I’m going higher and higher Closer to my dreams Higher and higher
Everybody has a gift on Earth that has been giving to us. Getting there can sometimes take a lot of ups and down. But never give up on what you aspire to be. Keep pushing, think positive about it, and never give up.
As a Black Woman in a male dominated field it is easy to lose your focus. There have been times that I had to cry about my job or felt like quitting. My drive has kept me going because I love what I do. If I would have giving up, I would have never been able to pave a way for another woman to be able to set foot in the same role. Yes, I have paved a way at one of the companies that I have worked for. I was first woman to ever work in my area. I feel proud to represent other women no matter what your color is. We all are going to win in IT.
I remember wanting to quit pursuing me dreams in my field when I had to deal with the misogyny of what I love to do. It’s okay for the men to do what they want and still get paid even if it was nothing all day. I have had to work harder to prove that women belong in this area. I have fought the good fight. I remember being asked by one of the directors the following question: “Why do not women want to apply for roles in Information Technology?”. I responded because with the following with tears running down my eyes: “Women are not treated the same as men are and even if we work hard it still comes with misogyny because we can over perform in this field but not be promoted like the men.” I am not married and watched with my own eyes how they gave all the newly married men on my team promotions and raises. I took all that hate that had built up and created a wall at my house to remind myself that “I can do anything”.
God has giving me this gift and I want to continue to use my gift to do his will. Woman we are winning over hearts everyday and letting the workforce know daily how valuable we are. Life is never easy but you’re a winner in the end.
Often times guys forget that you are in the room or that you have an opinion. We do not live in the stone-age anymore. Women are being more independent in the workplace. Woman can do anything that they want to and determined to do. Women have fought for this moment for us to be able to have a voice.
All of us are beautiful and unique and all our own ways. We are thriving to better our lives and pushing to the top of the career ladder. We are wives, mothers, sisters, friends, and leaders. If you are a women making things happen you are a boss. Uplift your women friends and do not discourage them from reaching their goals and dreams. We all have many ups and down, twist and turns but have to remind ourselves and be positive about it.
I want to thank everybody who is subscribed to this blog or have been reading this blog. I am celebrating 1 year of it being a success story. I am happy to have reached so many people. and looking forward to seeing where it’s going to go.
This song by Sia – “Unstoppable” plays ever time I get my car. Yes it reminds me everyday that I am Unstoppable and can do anything that I put my mind to. As the the lyrics play while I am in the car.
“I put my armor on, show you how strong how I am I put my armor on, I’ll show you that I am
I’m unstoppable I’m a Porsche with no brakes I’m invincible Yeah, I win every single game I’m so powerful I don’t need batteries to play I’m so confident Yeah, I’m unstoppable today Unstoppable today Unstoppable today Unstoppable today I’m unstoppable today”.
I was talking to a friend a few days and telling her how much I have been through in my career. My car reminds me everyday that I am unstoppable and that I am fighter. Yes I could have giving up my dreams a long time ago but I did not. I am here to show an all male dominant field that women have arrive and yes we are unstoppable. I think about a few areas in my life where I have paved the way for women to work a company.
I got this and will not give up on my career. I am going to reach the top and keep pushing to let women know we got this.
Letting go of the past is necessary in order to move forward in life. I am not perfect and yes I have made choices that I should have put more thoughts into it. Yes, God gives the freedom to make the choices we want freely. If it is not the right choice trust me God will let you know until you learn that lesson. Reflecting on my past and the lessons that I have learned.
Starting my career was not easy and I was not making enough in my field when I first started out. I would go to the career fairs at campus to look for an internship and felt that they had set the requirements so high for students at an HBCU and not the same requirements for a non HBCU student. I graduated with not much experience under my belt and felt the heat when it came looking for a job.
I would cry about not getting any offers after graduation and applying. I think God wanted to teach me lesson about it. I was in a stressful married at the time and trying to graduate. Yes, my married had failed because it was choice that I wanted and it was not the choice that God had for me. I can not change the past but I had learned from this situation that God had my back. I was going through a divorce and did not have anything to my name but God made a way for me to have a job. It was not the idea job but it paid the bills. I was so heartbroken by how I was done by this person who said that they loved me and made vows to me. All of it was a mirage and all I had left in the end was my pride. I had to start over my whole life. God took me out of a situation, tore me down, and rebuilt me as a new person. Thank you God for giving me a second chance to start over new and just focus on getting to where I wanted to be in my career.
Mental Health is very important to me as a person because I am warrior who has overcame Depression. Depression is not often talked about where I grew up at. As I get older you still have things that can trigger your emotions. “Are you prepared to overcome these emotions of what you are feeling?”
I remember buying this album when I was in college studying. I did not love myself as a person. I was looking love in all of the wrong places because I have never experience that feeling in my life and I often saw it in movies. I was never told I was pretty or received complements or had great encouragement in my younger life.
My first official time in experiencing that feeling was by my college friends who I had that real connection with like a family. These people taught me how to “Love Myself” and letting me know that my situation was not ideal at all. I had learned in my younger years how to have confidence in myself and know I had friends who cared for my well being.
One of the biggest regrets I wish I would have should have chosen myself more when I trying to be in relationships with the opposite sex. I easily learned that it was not to be in the situation that I was in. I had met this guy my freshman year and we had a lot in common. He was an upperclassman at the time. Things changed my sophomore year in our relationship and yes he started to show who he really was, “Player”. I really did not know what to do because I was inexperience with being in a relationship and very naive with myself. I wanted the attention when I should have chosen myself. This person made me hate myself even more and change me into someone I knew I never was. Instead of seeking the wrong attention I should have chose “Myself”.
Now that I am older I have learned to wait for the right person and wait on God’s timing and not my timing. I did things that I wanted to do and not by God’s timing. I have learned to be a stronger person and learn from my mistakes. Yes we are humans and do make mistakes. I have learned to forgive myself and chose “Me”.
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